The Trap

         What are you doing to be unsuccessful? Have you ever thought about why things don't work out in your favor? I've read a lot of things about how to be successful but what about the opposite? 1. ATTITUDE- Is it your attitude towards life and the people around you? A lot of people have isolated themselves from the world and don't even realize it. In your mind you feel like the world revolves around you but really you're getting left behind. "You can try to change but that's just the top layer, Man you was who you was before you got here", classic Jay Z line. And it holds truth. We act one way around certain people and another way around other people but it's only so long before the truth comes out. You can't hide who you are inside. So I'll ask again, what are you doing to be unsuccessful? 2. INTANGIBLES- Where's your drive? Where's your motivation? Where's your ability to listen? Where's your heart? The ability t

              I was in Wal mart picking up some last minute items for my lunch before I went to work. I walked in, picked up my rotisserie chicken and headed straight for the scan and go. As I walked up to it I heard an employee yell that the system just shut down. Meaning? All the registers in the store suddenly went into shut down mode and no one could check out. It's 4:30 am so it's not packed by any means but there were still a handful of people in the store. One of the guys proceeds to sit his items down and walk out of the store immediately. Another lady leaves her buggy of items by another register and leaves the store. Then there was another lady who slammed her things down on the counter and repeatedly asks how long will the system be down? The employee says she really doesn't know but is hopeful it'll be back up within the next few minutes. The lady asks is there another 24hr Wal Mart nearby and angrily storms out of the store while saying sh

              Relationships vs. Experiences       Which side are you on? Does it matter? Let's find out. Everywhere you look on social media is another post about "finding a good man" or "women don't want a good man". It's always something like that lol. But why? Why is it so hard for relationships to last ot better yet, why is it so hard to find someone who wants a relationship? Of course there are a lot of people whom have been scarred from previous relationships and they have their guard up so high that by the time it starts to come down, the other person is no longer interested. It's a cycle that happens over and over again. Other relationships last just long enough for the "honeymoon" phase to run out and then it's back to square one. And then you have your relationships that last long enough to where marriage comes into play but divorce happens so quickly because they just "fell out of love" or &quo

Give me my flowers....Please don't wait til I'm dead and gone, to give me my recognition, I need it fresh off the stove, I don't want the long speeches nor the sad slow songs, give me a party as we celebrate me going home, I don't want the empty hugs between "friends" in my remembrance, I don't want that same line that is used over and over again, that "if you need anything please let me know", how about telling me you love me before it's my time to go, I'm so tired of hearing the "I wish I had one more chance to talk", when we take for granted every other minute on the clock, we rather spend our time alone because we're so caught up in ourselves, instead of picking up the phone to just holla at someone else, and when that someone else has reached their life's conclusion, we're with tears in our eyes hoping that God gets us through this, Give me my flowers....Maybe I'm out of line, but this topic right here

               Don't be offended. Just hear me out first. One thing I challenge all of my readers to do is think for themselves and form their opinions. You do not have to agree with me for these are my thoughts for you to see. As different topics pop up in the news from Kanye West to Bill Cosby to the never ending headlines of the President, a lot of us are being drawn into various arguments and opinions about certain comments. You're actually being forced to pick a side and you don't have to. Don't let the comments of individuals force you to pick a side. It's okay to have your own voice and own opinion. So many times I see people piggyback off of someone else's comment because everyone else is doing it. There's nothing wrong with walking alone. Believe me, at some point someone will choose to follow. Your opinion also will not always be the popular one. That's okay. At the end of the day it's about what you believe. As far as Mr. West

                                                      Doesn't it feel good? Waking up every morning to the chirping of birds? The rays from the sun hitting your face letting you know you're alive another day? Checking your bank account knowing your check just hit your account and your bills are already paid? Looking over at your imperfect perfect soul mate sleeping comfortably with the air or heat on? The comfortable life. We all dream about reaching that point where we can live comfortably without any worries. The day where we can cancel our gym memberships and just live freely. What a beautiful life. Retire and live out our dreams right? Get married and have a couple of wonderful kids and buy the perfect house? The American dream. How much does it cost to be comfortable? It costs a lot actually. Not only in money, but in time. Oh don't get me wrong, these things are definitely attainable but it will cost you. The question is, how much are you willing to pay? We